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together.’ That’s too vague. How will you know when he’s
done it? But if you make your request specific, he will know
exactly what you want and you will know that, when he does
it, he is choosing to do something for your benefit.
“Make a specific request of him each month. If he does
it, fine; if he doesn’t do it, fine. But when he does it, you will
know that he is responding to your needs. In the process,
you are teaching him your primary love language because
the requests you make are in keeping with your love
language. If he chooses to begin loving you in your primary
language, your positive emotions toward him will begin to
resurface. Your emotional tank will begin to fill up and in
time the marriage will, in fact, be reborn.”

Perhaps you need a miracle in your own marriage. Why
not try Ann’s experiment?

“Dr. Chapman, I would do anything if that could
happen,” Ann said.
“Well,” I responded, “it will take a lot of hard work, but I
believe it’s worth a try. I’m personally interested to see if
this experiment works and if our hypothesis is true. I would
like to meet with you regularly throughout this process—
perhaps every two weeks—and I would like you to keep
records on the positive words of affirmation that you give
Glenn each week. Also, I would like you to bring me your list