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felt loved. More than anything, I wish that part of our
marriage could return. When we spend time together, I feel
like he really cares, but when he’s always doing other
things, never has time to talk, never has time to do anything
with me, I feel like business and other pursuits are more
important than our relationship.”
“And what do you think Glenn’s primary love language
is?” I inquired.
“I think it is physical touch and especially the sexual
part of the marriage. I know that when I felt more loved by
him and we were more sexually active, he had a different
attitude. I think that’s his primary love language, Dr.
Chapman.”
“Does he ever complain about the way you talk to
him?”
“Well, he says I nag him all the time. He also says that I
don’t support him, that I’m always against his ideas.”
“Then, let’s assume,” I said, “that ‘Physical Touch’ is
his primary love language and ‘Words of Affirmation’ is his
secondary love language. The reason I suggest the second
is that if he complains about negative words, apparently
positive words would be meaningful to him.
“Now, let me suggest a plan to test our hypothesis.
What if you go home and say to Glenn, ‘I’ve been thinking
about us and I’ve decided that I would like to be a better
wife to you. So if you have any suggestions as to how I
could be a better wife, I want you to know that I am open to
them. You can tell me now or you can think about it and let