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“With two of my closest friends,” she said, “and a little
bit with some other people.”
“And what was their response?”
“Get out,” she said. “They all tell me to get out, that he
will never change, and that I am simply prolonging the
agony. But, Dr. Chapman, I just can’t bring myself to do that.
Maybe I should, but I just can’t believe that’s the right thing
to do.”
“It seems to me that you are torn between your
religious and moral beliefs that tell you it is wrong to get out
of the marriage, and your emotional pain, which tells you
that getting out is the only way to survive,” I said.
“That’s exactly right, Dr. Chapman. That’s exactly the
way I feel. I don’t know what to do.”

When the tank is low…we have no love feelings toward
our spouse but simply experience emptiness and pain.

“I am deeply sympathetic with your struggle,” I
continued. “You are in a very difficult situation. I wish I could
offer you an easy answer. Unfortunately, I can’t. Both of the
alternatives you mentioned, getting out or staying in, will
likely bring you a great deal of pain. Before you make that
decision, I do have one idea. I am not sure it will work, but
I’d like you to try it. I know from what you have told me that
your religious faith is important to you and that you have a