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you can channel your energies in the right direction, there is
a good possibility that Glenn will eventually reciprocate.” I
read the other portion of Jesus’ sermon recorded by Luke,
the physician. “‘Give, and it will be given to you. A good
measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over,
will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use,
it will be measured to you.’
“As I understand that, Jesus is stating a principle, not a
way to manipulate people. Generally speaking, if we are
kind and loving toward people, they will tend to be kind and
loving toward us. That does not mean that we can make a
person kind by being kind to him. We are independent
agents. Thus, we can spurn love and walk away from love
or even spit into the face of love. There is no guarantee that
Glenn will respond to your acts of love. We can only say that
there is a good possibility he will do so.” (A counselor can
never predict with absolute certainty individual human
behavior. Based on research and personality studies, a
counselor can only predict how a person is likely to respond
in a given situation.)
After we agreed on the hypothesis, I said to Ann, “Now
let’s discuss your and Glenn’s primary love languages. I’m
assuming from what you have told me already that quality
time may be your primary love language. What do you
think?”
“I think so, Dr. Chapman. In the early days when we
spent time together and Glenn listened to me, we spent
long hours talking together, doing things together. I really