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me know what you think, but I would really like to work on
being a better wife.’ Whatever his response, negative or
positive, simply accept it as information. That initial
statement lets him know that something different is about to
happen in your relationship.

If you claim to have feelings that you do not have, that is
hypocritical…. But if you express an act of love that is
designed for the other person’s benefit or pleasure, it is
simply a choice.

“Then based upon your guess that his primary love
language is ‘Physical Touch’ and my suggestion that his
secondary love language may be ‘Words of Affirmation,’
focus your attention on those two areas for one month.
“If Glenn comes back with a suggestion as to how you
might be a better wife, accept that information and work it
into your plan. Look for positive things in Glenn’s life and
give him verbal affirmation about those things. In the
meantime, stop all verbal complaints. If you want to
complain about something, write it down in your personal
notebook rather than saying anything about it to Glenn this
month.
“Begin taking more initiative in physical touch and
sexual involvement. Surprise him by being aggressive, not
simply responding to his advances. Set a goal to have