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told you I was going to try to be a better wife? I want to ask
how you think I am doing.’
“Whatever Glenn says, accept it as information. He
may be sarcastic, he may be flippant or hostile, or he may
be positive. Whatever his response, do not argue but
accept it and assure him that you are serious and that you
really want to be a better wife, and if he has additional
suggestions, you are open to them.
“Follow this pattern of asking for feedback once a
month for the entire six months. Whenever Glenn gives you
the first positive feedback, whenever he says, ‘You know, I
have to admit that when you first told me that you were
going to try to be better, I pretty much laughed it off, but I’ll
have to acknowledge that things are different around here,’
you will know that your efforts are getting through to him
emotionally. He may give you positive feedback after the
first month, or it may be after the second or third. One week
after you receive the first positive feedback, I want you to
make a request of Glenn—something that you would like
him to do, something in keeping with your primary love
language. For example, you may say to him one evening,
‘Glenn, do you know something I would like to do? Do you
remember how we used to play Scrabble together? I’d like
to play Scrabble with you on Thursday night. The kids are
going to be staying at Mary’s. Do you think that would be
possible?’
“Make the request something specific, not general.
Don’t say, ‘You know, I wish we would spend more time