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need could be met and positive feelings could be
engendered again.
“Does that make sense to you?” I inquired.
“Dr. Chapman, you have just described my life. I have
never seen it so clearly before. We were in love before we
got married, but not long after our marriage we came down
off the high and we never learned to speak each other’s
love language. My tank has been empty for years, and I am
sure his has also. Dr. Chapman, if I had understood this
concept earlier, maybe none of this would have happened.”
“We can’t go back, Ann,” I said. “All we can do is try to
make the future different. I would like to propose a six-
month experiment.”
“I’ll try anything,” Ann said.
I liked her positive spirit, but I wasn’t sure whether she
understood how difficult the experiment would be.
“Let’s begin by stating our objective,” I said. “If in six
months you could have your fondest wish, what would it
be?”
Ann sat in silence for some time. Then thoughtfully she
said, “I would like to see Glenn loving me again and
expressing it by spending time with me. I would like to see
us doing things together, going places together. I would like
to feel that he is interested in my world. I would like to see
us talking when we go out to eat. I’d like him to listen to me.
I’d like to feel that he values my ideas. I would like to see us
taking trips together and having fun again. I would like to
know that he values our marriage more than anything.”