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4. Give him what he wants (before

he knows he wants it)

My husband becomes disproportionately happy if I replace the box of

Mallomars before it's empty and equally pouty if I don't pour him a cup

of coffee with my own in the morning. These reactions aren't out of whack,

says Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love.

Little acts of thoughtfulness, or lack thereof, relay something bigger to our

partners. "It's about tuning in to his needs, making the discovery of them

a priority," she says.

So try this next time he has a lot of job stress: If he ordinarily picks up the

groceries, tell him you'll take over for a while so he can have some time to

himself.

"Actions like that touch his soul," says Love. "He

thinks, you’ve been watching me. I'm important to

you."

5. Give him your admiration

A lot has changed over the last 40 years, but one thing remains the same:

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