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Your guy's self-esteem is tied up in how well he

handles the job of being a "real man" — his

performance at work, in bed, as a dad.

Stay mum about these subjects and it won't matter if he's a superstud with

a six-figure salary. He'll...wonder.

"Men are still trying to get their mothers' approval, and you represent that

feminine approval," says psychologist Gratch.

So give freely, and give often, making sure you keep your praise genuine

and, well, masculine. (Sad to say, complimenting him on his sensitivity will

please him because it pleases you, but it won't massage him in those little-

boy spots that most need the rub.)

And remember to focus the compliment on him. If

he gets a promotion, for example, instead of saying,

"Great, we can use the extra money," try, "Wow, they

finally see how hard you've been working.

6. Give him his adulthood

You can lecture him about his eating habit and stock the kitchen with fresh

fruit.

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