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No matter how long you've been together, there are some simple,

fundamental rules of the road. Putting them into practice isn't always easy,

but it is critical. Make your relationship stronger, and the good stuff—fun,

sex, trust, affection—will be better than ever.

1. Be Vocal About Things You Like

Boredom, frustration and everyday irritations can drown the spark

between you and your partner — and more of the same certainly won’t

feed the flame.

Making the good stuff your top priority will. First, consider that it takes up

to 20 positive statements to outweigh the harm done by one negative

one.

So compliment your man on his new shoes. Thank him for helping around

the house. Dial his office for a quick “thinking of you” check-in.

Be sure these compliments and thank-you’s are

heartfelt and specific, and make eye contact when

you smile.

Once you take this approach, you’ll realize that, in addition to knowing

how to push your partner’s hot buttons, you know how to push his or her

joy buttons too (and I don’t just mean sex).

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