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By : By Merhawit ፦ Merhawit1986@aol.com
Men reveal the moves that make wom- selves, so when I first meet a woman I’m knock wood.”
en swoon By Chelsea Kaplan You don’t interested in, I’ll ask questions so that she’s Michael, 33, marketing strategist, New
have to be loaded or look like Ryan Gos- doing most of the talking. Not only does it York, NY
ling to successfully reel in women. We make her happy, but it’s a great way to get
polled chick magnets across the country to know her — everyone wins! I usually ask Maintain meaningful eye contact with her
for their rules of attraction. And we about her childhood first: Where did she “When I am with a woman — whether I
must say, these guys have some secrets grow up? Did she like it? What did her par- am talking to her, dancing with her, or eat-
worth stealing. Learn first-hand from the ents do? And then I’ll ask questions about ing with her — I make as much eye contact
masters how to make the ladies swoon: her present job, apartment and her goals for as possible. Not in a creepy way, but in a
the future. Women are drawn to me be- way that communicates, ‘I am paying atten-
Tell her how good she looks (in an unex- cause it’s clear I’m not just drawn to them tion to you and am genuinely interested in
pected way) for their looks.” being here with you.’ Essentially, you want
“I’ve found that women love getting Danny, 34, graduate student, Pittsburgh, PA to convey that you only have eyes for her,
compliments on their appearance. I al- no pun intended. Nothing makes a woman
ways pick one aspect of how she looks Lay on the charm, but in a relaxed and hu- feel more insecure than a guy with whose
and comment on why I think it’s fantas- morous way eyes are darting around the room. I find
tic. I try to be specific so she feels it’s “In my experience, I get a lot more dates women respond to this and really open up.”
genuine and not just an attempt to score than my friends because I flirt — a lot. I Oliver, 33, lawyer, Hartford, CT
points (even though that’s sort of what it think dating should be a fun, playful experi-
sometimes is!). Instead of saying some- ence. So I’m not afraid to approach a wom- Be true to your word
thing general, like ‘You look nice,’ I an, but before I launch into a corny pickup “Contrary to what you see in the movies
might say, ‘I really like your earrings; that line, I’ll say: ‘Promise me I get a do-over if and on TV, I think it’s always best to call a
shade of blue matches your eyes’ or ‘I you hate this opening line.’ Or I’ll go over woman when you say you are going to call
love those boots; they make your legs to an attractive woman and ask her, ‘What’s and not play stupid waiting games. What’s
look incredible.’ Women are amazed that it like being the prettiest lady in this room?’ that all about? If I tell a woman I’ll call her
I pay that kind of attention and they’re I have to say, I think my relaxed, joke-y way tomorrow, I do, and I always get a good
always appreciative.” of approaching women really works.” reaction. In fact, I think it’s sad when wom-
Thom, 37, actor, Manhattan Beach, CA Tom, 42, architect, Chicago en are surprised that I follow up as prom-
ised. The right kind of woman doesn’t want
Be spontaneous a guy who plays games. Treat a lady with
“One thing women always comment on Plan an unexpected (but fun) first date respect, and she’ll want to be around you.”
is that I’m a spontaneous, take-charge “I always try to take a woman on a really Jeffrey, 35, sales representative, Chamblee,
kind of guy — and they really like that. different first date — one that will show her GA
If I’m out on a first date and a woman that I’m a spontaneous, up-for-anything
mentions how she used to go bowling a person. I shy away from the typical dinner Some old-fashioned chivalry will make her
lot when she was a kid, I’ll say, ‘So let’s or movie options and instead choose feel like a queen
go bowling right after we finish our des- something that’s different and cool, yet still “I admit it’s old-fashioned, but I always
sert.’ Or if it’s winter and the mood within her comfort zone. I can’t say it’s al- open doors for a woman, pull out her chair
strikes, I’ll drive a date to the beach, just ways cheap or easy, but I like the creative before she sits and stand when she gets up
to look at the water. I think women like challenge of coming up with something from the table. Women are sometimes a
a man who isn’t afraid to act on impulse memorable and romantic. I’ve arranged for little surprised by my actions, but ultimately,
and do things that really make you enjoy a private, at-home cooking lesson with a they appreciate it. A woman once told me
life.” chef from one of my favorite restaurants, that doing those things made her feel like a
Brian, 39, radio station manager, Boston scheduled a rooftop massage for two and lady, and that’s what it’s all about. If you
even once took a woman on a helicopter treat a woman like a queen, she’ll want you
Let her talk about herself as much as she ride over the city. I want her to feel like to be her king, so to speak!”
likes she’ll always have fun if she continues to see Larry, 31, lawyer, Miami, FL
“Most people love talking about them- me. And the strategy has been working,

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