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If you would like to forgive yourself for a wrongdoing or an inappropriate action you
should write down all of the details associated with this, as well.

It may be, though that you need to recognize a specific destructive pattern in your life
so that you can discontinue it as well as work on changing it. In any case, be sure to
keep track of as many distinctions as you can. This makes the whole process that
much easier as it enables you to possess the maximum information possible. After all,
information IS power and we want to ensure that you are every bit as powerful as you
possibly can be.

The worksheets provided at the end of this chapter will help you keep all of the
miscellaneous details in order. A journal can also be a useful tool in changing negative
life patterns as well as a great opportunity to vent your thoughts, and emotions.

After you have completed the recognition stage, simply tell yourself that this way of
approaching a problem has not worked for you in the past. Then STOP doing it. It is
as simple as that. You can use positive affirmation techniques such as repeating that
statement aloud to your self several times. Remember to use positive phrases when
affirming your self.

It may help, as well, to jot down a short note with the intended outcome written on in.
Some individuals may find it helpful to draw or paint a poster outlining their specific
goal and hang it where it will be highly visible to them throughout the day. Be sure to
make your poster simple and easy to read and post it in an area where you spend a
great deal of time. If you have an alternative, positive approach, you may wish to add
that to your poster, as well.

Whether the gift of forgiveness is one you will be sending off to a specific recipient or
keeping all to yourself, it is equally as important in either case to recognize the incident
that requires forgiving. Once you have specified the event and the perpetrator, you
might want to write a letter to him or her. Unless you feel strongly about this, there is
no need to actually send this letter to its’ recipient. You may keep it if you wish, for
your records or destroy it in any way you see fit. Do whatever you feel you must.

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