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withheld affection; how physically affectionate he was; how he handled
difficult situations in his life; any prominent personality characteristics or
physical traits he had; something about his value system; and anything else

that you imagine would give me a feeling for how you experienced him
when you were a child.

While the reckless and featherbrained may be tempted to read further
now, the wise and pure-hearted will read no further before having written
his or her list.

Having now done so, look over your list of your parent’s characteristics
and ask yourself which of these qualities you have taken on as your own.

Be honest with yourself. It doesn’t matter if you like the qualities, loathe
them, or are indifferent to them. If they fit you, even a little, place a check
mark in the column labeled “ .”

Now look at those qualities you’ve checked, and ask yourself which
ones you’d like to do away with. For those, put a check in the minus (-) sign
column. For those qualities you’d like to keep, enjoy, and perhaps
embellish, put a check in the plus (+) column. For each one you’d like to
make more useful to you by modifying or reworking, put a check in the M

column.