Page 45 - Failure to Triumph - Journey of A Student

person appears to be the perfect one- without any shortcomings or
flaws. You get disturbed by the very thought that what if the other
person gets married elsewhere? It is also very possible that you get

depressed and have suicidal thoughts because you think that your
love is a failure. You might stop acknowledging the fact that your
parents spent their entire life in bringing you up, looking after you,
and in return you should also do something.
You will have only one thing in your mind- if I get this person in my
life then I will be happy, otherwise there is no meaning in my life,
nothing matters to me.

Imagine the scenario where you do get to marry the person of your
liking, but you do not have even a single source of income. How will
you then feel like? You may be having a very good husband or a
wife but inside you will feel like a caged bird. And all the happiness
will vanish when you face the harsh realities of life. For an ambitious

and well-deserving youth, to be unemployed is, a matter of shame
and sadness. Life appears to be a curse to an unemployed person.
There is stress, restlessness, and uncertainty which eats him from
within. And this applies to both boys and girls. Today every girl wants
to be self- sufficient. Girls no longer want to spend their lives as
housewives. They cannot accept that they will have to ask for money
for every petty thing from their husbands all the time. And this is

great progress.

Is it possible for you to get out of something towards which you have
tremendous amount of inclination? Firstly, you must understand that
if you have to disconnect yourself from something very intimate and
emotional then you need to divert your focus to something else, get

attached to something else. For example, a barbie doll is very dear
to a girl and she spends a lot of her time playing with it. Whenever
you try to take away the doll from her, she starts crying. At that
moment, the doll is everything she has because she is attached to it
very much. But when the same girl goes to a school, she gets
attached to a boy and starts loving him. Now, does the barbie doll
matters to her the same as before? Her attraction towards the doll

gets over once she grows up.