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you are getting hurt in some way, or if you know about someone that is
getting hurt or if you are going to hurt someone. I need to make sure
you are always safe, so if one of those things are happening, I need to
share this with someone to get more help.

I talk to a lot of kids where their mum and dad do not live together.
Sometimes kids share things like how they would like things to be
different and they also share the things that they like. You can tell me
anything you want to and if you want, I can help your parents by telling
them about the things that are really important to you. If you don't want
me to say something to them, but you still want to tell me, I won’t share
with them. I will always tell you what I would like to say to your parents
and you can help me decide what words to use and how to tell them (if
you want).

I told your mum and dad that it is important that you have privacy when
you come to meet with me. That’s why they have agreed not to ask you a
bunch of questions right after you meet with me - right mum or dad?
(depending on who is in the room at the time). To further the parent
commitment, you can say that you usually ask kids if their parents were
able to keep their word and not ask questions (say this in front of the
parents).
Now it is time for your mum/dad to go to the waiting area and it is our

special time together.

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