Page 19 - Pure Magazine Issue 2
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Make FEELING GOOD
the #1 Priority in your life
By Veronika Biller
We experience life through emotions.
Things like being nice to relatives even if
they don’t treat you kindly, wearing skirts
You could be surrounded by the most
“because that’s what girls do” and being
luxurious things, live in the most
the problem solver for everyone.
astonishing place – if you don’t feel good
inside all the beauty in the world does not
But being seen as the “good one” is not
matter to you.
the same as feeling good. Very far away
Or similarly, when you have reached some
actually. So I had to change course and
long aspired goal or fallen madly in love
this is how I did it:
suddenly you are bouncing through your
routine and your everyday life seems
I had to come to peace with that not
more colourful and charming.
everyone will like me prioritising my own
So essentially your life is about FEELING.
happiness – there will be some conflict.
Being “good” is a social concept and it is
When I realised this, my priorities
far more important that I am living in
changed. Feeling good is now top of the
integrity with my own values. Becoming
list and I rearranged my life accordingly.
comfortable with others disagreeing with
The straightforward adjustment was to
my decisions helped me a lot.
choose a career that fulfils me and is
aligned to my values. And not one
because I studied the subject. Or one that
people agree on is a “safe option”.
Also, pretty self-explanatory was to go for
a guy that loves me as I am – and not just
that, he cherishes me and thinks I’m the
coolest person in the world (at least, that’s
what he tells me!). Instead of finding the
most “mysterious” (aka emotionally
unavailable) man in the room and hoping
that, yes, the relationship will eventually
start once we have worked through his
problems.
Much less obvious was the realisation that
I do many things because they make me
look “good” in the eyes of others –
everyone raised Catholic will know exactly
what I am talking about.
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