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Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to feel shy.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
he learns to find love in the world.
Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D

In order to unconditionally accept and love yourself and others you need to:

• First: Identify what are the conditions which you force others to meet before you are accepting and loving of them.
• Second: Analyse these conditions and expectations which you set for others in order to identify why they block you from being unconditional.
• Third: Analyse if these conditions are reasonable, rational, or realistic and develop healthy alternative scripts which free you up to be more
unconditional with others.
• Fourth: Recognize that the limits and rules of appropriate behaviours which you expect others to conform to are rules for survival, decency, getting
along, coping, productivity, sense, and order but are not the determinants of freely accepting and loving them.
• Fifth: Practice eliminating any conditions as you face others and attempt to accept and love them freely, generously, and with no limitations.
• Sixth: Emphasize with others that it is because you love and accept them so entirely and freely that you want them to experience the positive or
negative consequences of their own actions and that such consequences do not affect your acceptance or love of them.
• Seventh: Clarify that "tough love'' is the continuous unconditional acceptance and love of others but yet holds the target of such love to be fully
personally responsible for their own actions and the consequences of those actions.

I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. Page250
You are you and I am I and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.