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FACT: Perpetuation of this belief places immense and unreasonable pressure on your partner to be everything to you.

We are not talking here about basic relationship needs of love, affection and friendship, but there are needs better fulfilled by friends, relatives and
acquaintances.

It’s great sex – it must be true love

Have you ever told yourself you were madly in love, and later realised it wasn’t love, but lust? Have you had a relationship when the time you spent in bed
was when you were most compatible?

If you have good sex it does not always mean you are truly in love with them, it certainly doesn’t necessarily mean you were meant to be together and it doesn’t
necessarily mean you have a good relationship. It does mean that you have good sexual chemistry and that one or both of you are skilled lovers. It might also
mean that you have a strong physical attraction that can be the basis for a healthy, whole relationship, if you are compatible in other important areas.

Belief that good or great sex must mean true love can set us up for disastrous consequences if we fail to take all other aspects of compatibility into account.

FACT: We can become involved with people we discover we are no longer as compatible with.

FACT: We can find ourselves staying in relationships longer than we should, have a hard time letting go of partners, allowing the sexual aspect to delay
acceptance of incompatibility.

FACT: Good, even Great Sex does not equal true love, and plays a very small part in overall compatibility.

Precious moments for lovers
What does it mean to be a lover?

It is more than just being in a relationship with someone or making love to him or her. Millions are in relationships, have sex and share intimacy and
closeness, but few are real lovers. A real lover commits to, and participates in, a perpetual appreciation of their partner, celebrating the gift
of their relationship every single day by consciously exercising the key elements of love. To remind you, they are :-

• Demonstrating acceptance, appreciation and affection.
• Wanting the best for their partner, paying conscious attention, displaying genuine affection and understanding.
• Exhibiting friendship, respect and passion. Page388

A true lover never forgets that their partner does not belong to them, they are on loan from the universe and they know that if they do not take good