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True love at first sight exists
The very same songs, poetry and romantic novels that perpetuate the misconception about love being enough, also contribute to the belief that we really can
fall in love at the first sight of our beloved. Like a bolt out of the blue, true love can apparently hit any one of us the very moment we first set eyes on
someone.
I’m sorry to burst a romantic bubble, but belief in the misconception of love at first sight, is a sure path to heartache further down the line.
“Yes but it felt like falling in love, if it wasn’t love what was it?”
LUST: When you experience raw sexual chemistry and attach more emotion to the bond than actually exists. Intense physical attraction is most often
mistaken for love because of the rush of chemicals and the apparent physical match we formulate in our minds eye that the person represents.
IMAGE INFATUATION: How handsome or beautiful they are, how they talk, the work they do, the power they exude, the money they have, even the car
they drive can tick boxes in our minds, so that we become infatuated with their image and mistake the intensity of the feeling for love at first sight.
The very real danger of believing in love at first sight, creates the likelihood that you will be blinded by the intensity of initial chemistry and overlook the
long term compatibility prospects. Infatuation can occur in a moment, true love grows in stages over time.
We can only have one true love
“Are you the one for me?”
The problem here lies in the very question. Once again, we are led by society and culture to believe that for every one of us there is “one” other perfect being,
and we will never be happy until we find them. We go through life examining the prospective “one” dismissing every one with a flaw that disqualifies them
from being our dream person.
In our attempt to avoid making a fatal choice, we miss out on experiencing what could be, a truly wonderful and special relationship. With our present
partners we find ourselves secretly asking “I wonder if there is someone else out there who would make me happier?”
The first observation is that in believing that there could only ever be one person who would be right for me, I am looking for that one person to fill me up, to Page386
satisfy my every emotional need, which of course is a route destined to be filled with disappointment and heartache.
