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The Connection between Loving & Happiness

When you ask yourself the question “What do I want out of Life?”, whatever your answer, it will involve be-ing having or doing something that will bring you
true happiness. Reflecting back over your life so far, recapture the moments where you felt truly happy. Don’t be too surprised if you discover that it was when
you were most loving, that you were at your happiest.

Contrary to what you might think, your happiness is connected more to your capacity to love, than to your being loved.

Remember the last time someone told you they loved you? It felt great didn’t it? That special person in your life, uttering those magical words? How long did
the feeling last, a few moments? When someone you care for, expresses their love for you, it brings you a feeling of warmth and approval that is so special.
The feeling only lasts a moment. In order to keep having that feeling continuously, your significant other has to continue saying it, which is clearly impractical.

This momentary and magical piece of ego approval, wonderful and essential as it is, to loving relationships, is nowhere near as long lasting, as your
own feeling of loving them. As long as you feel love for them, you feel happy. As long as you can keep that loving feeling, right there in the moment
with you, you will enjoy a sense of unrivalled happiness. Their loving you is a momentary pleasure that needs constant re-enforcement on their part to
sustain your ego. Your love for them is a constant source of happiness, for as long as you love them.

Your true happiness is directly related to your capacity to love. The more you can be truly, authentically loving, the more true happiness will appear in your
life.

The Wheel of Life

We have explored the basic human needs we all have, the roles some of us fulfil and the areas of our lives those needs and
roles occupy. Now it is time to bring them all together in a simple exercise that will reveal how well your human needs are
currently being met in the key roles and areas of your life.

The Wheel of Life Exercise, sometimes Life Balance Wheel, is one of the most powerful and versatile personal awareness and growth tools available.

It’s simple and easy to use - and extremely flexible. You can use it to reveal your analysis of the AREAS we have shown or adapt it to almost every part of
your life. An example might be to assess a relationship, breaking it down into the areas you consider most important and then scoring them to arrive at a
more visual picture of your present position. You may choose to analyse the ROLES you occupy to reveal which bring you most and least satisfaction.

The Wheel of Life is a popular visual tool to help you quickly understand how balanced or fulfilled your life is in this moment.
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