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“Till death do us part” has pretty much
disappeared from most modern day
wedding vows, as well as from the thinking

of most young couples, to be replaced with,
“Until we stop growing together”. Piscean
age scandals, like divorce, living together or

having a child “out of wedlock”, choosing
to partner with someone of the same sex,
etc. have become the mainstream normal,
rather than cause for shame. It really wasn’t
that long ago that we sent such aberrations

to the “home for unwed mothers”, or
“behavior modification camps” to be
“fixed”. As the struggle for sexual equality

continues, the traditional motivation for
relationship has shifted from “Can you
play the role of appropriate Wife/Mother/
Caretaker or Husband/Father/Provider?”
to “Are you an appropriate reflection of me,

and able to foster and support my growth
as an individual? Do you enhance and
enrich my personal development and help

me to become a better version of myself?”
When the relationship can no longer
sustain growth of each individual, it is the
relationship that must end, rather than the
individuation process of either participant.

With today’s internet and social media
tools, our ability to relate on a global scale

with so many different kinds of people,
has expanded in quantum leaps. The
mysterious “Other” has become a much
more familiar and interesting character.
From the safety of the keyboard, we explore

relationships with diverse individuals who
expose us to ideas, principles, cultures,
world views and a variety of acceptable

lifestyles very different from our own. We
are forced to be aware of, and perhaps

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