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Anger Self-Assessment

Knowing yourself

1 - Not able, have not yet been able

2 - Slightly able, sometimes can

3 - Able, not as consistent

4 - Very able, can most of the time

5 - Extremely able, can almost all the time

How able are you…

… to know when you feel calm and relaxed?

… to know when you begin to feel angry?

… to know what underlies your anger?

… to know how to comfort yourself when you become upset?

… to know what you want the outcome of your anger to be?

… to know that your thoughts are fueling your anger?

… to know when you feel satisfied and in control of your anger?

If your total on the above table adds up to 15 or less, then you can benefit from a better
understanding of how you perceive, interpret, and process your anger. You can learn and master
new awareness and skills to be more attuned to your brain and body and how it changes when
you start to feel angry.

If your total on the above table adds up to 16 - 25, you have some level of awareness and
understanding of how your brain and body changes as you become angry. But you may be
curious, or confused, as to what to do about it and how to avoid losing emotional control. Further
self-attunement to angry sensations and new tools to meet your needs when becoming angry
would be effective.

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