Page 15 - How Changing Your Anger Can Help You Be a Better Parent book

that your anger is causing you to feel out of control is one thing but knowing what to do about it in
the heat of an angry moment with your child is entirely different. You can learn and master new
anger expression tools to expand on your strength of anger impact awareness.

If your total on the above table adds up to 26 - 35, you have learned how not to allow your
emotional charge in an angry moment to control your reaction. You seem to realize the feeling of
anger is different from the expression of anger. You may still need more healthy ways to be
assertive when communicating to your child when angry.
Having an impact on your child

1 - Not able, have not yet been able
2 - Slightly able, sometimes can

3 - Able, not as consistent
4 - Very able, can most of the time

5 - Extremely able, can almost all the time

How able are you…

… to know the impact your angry words and actions have on your child?

… to know that your child has a right to his/her own feelings?

… to know how your anger impacts your child’s self-esteem?

… to know how your anger impacts your relationship with your child?

… to know to consider the impact before making angry choices?

… to know how you can feel better after being angry with your child?

… to know how to teach your child how to handle his/her anger?

If your total on the above table adds up to 15 or less, you will find clarity and a new understanding
of how your anger is affecting your child. Like hitting a nail into a piece of wood and then pulling
it out, the nail still leaves the hole or impression. After being angry toward your child, there will be
an impact on emotional and relational health. You can learn and master new ways to have a
healthier impact.

If your total on the above table adds up to 16 - 25, you realize that your anger has an impact on
your child. Perhaps you still struggle with how to change to healthy anger processing and

11