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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

"I strongly don't like this dif culty. It's hard. It's uncomfortable, but I can deal
with it.” Don’t say, ‘I can’t stand it.” The truth is you can stand it, unless of
course it kills you. If it killed you, then you couldn’t be happy at all! But to say,
“It won’t kill me but I can’t be at all happy because of it” almost always is a lie.

You can conquer your low frustration tolerance in two basic ways. First, you
can reduce your feeling of frustration by relaxation techniques, exercise, or
some other distraction and stress reduction method, such as Yoga,
meditation, or relaxation methods. These methods nay be helpful, but are
considered temporary because it is better to overcome your LFT instead of
merely distracting yourself from it.

But since you probably will let frustration get to you occasionally, you may
bene t from dealing with your uncomfortable physical tension.

Uncomfortable neck and shoulder pain, headaches, and stomach trouble
often are the result of stress or physical tension.

Illogical LFT Belief: Studying for this exam is too hard!

Dispute: Why is it too hard?.

Answer: It isn’t. It’s just hard. But it will be harder if I don’t study. I’ll fail and
have to take this course over. That will really be hard!.

Irrational LFT Belief: “I shouldn’t have to keep looking for a job when it’s so
dif cult to nd a good one.

Dispute: Where is it written that I shouldn’t have to keep looking?

Answer: Only in my silly head! I should have to keep looking because it, the
job, is certainly not going to look for me. And the more dif cult it is to nd
one, the more I should look. Of course, I don’t have to look for a job. But I’d
damned well better!

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