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THE PROSPEROUS SOUL

The idea here is that a friend fit for a king (or queen, of course!) does not
just ignore the difficulties that arise in the relationship. Neither do they
harshly criticize their friend. Instead, they cultivate the skill of speaking
about such concerns with kindness and truth. They speak in a truthful
way that is also honouring to their friend. So, if you are fortunate
enough to know someone among your acquaintances who seeks to
speak the truth with grace, get to know that person as a friend. The
Scriptures also tell us that it is to our own benefit when we practice
speaking truth with grace to our friends, because then we “reap the
fruit” of a mutually rewarding friendship.

From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled;
with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied.
The tongue has the power of life and death,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.
(Proverbs 18:20-21)

3) Be Open to Receiving your Friend’s Counsel

Grace is a two-way street. It's difficult to be friends with someone to
whom you can't speak honestly. Sometimes only a true friend cares
enough about you to be honest with you. So, don't be arrogant or too
sensitive to take your friend's thoughtful advice. By the same token,
when your friend asks for your opinion, consider what you truly believe
will benefit your friend and do your best to provide wise and honest
counsel. How do you know if your counsel is wise? You will know it is
wise if what you say to your friend is in line with the Word.

 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the
pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice
(Proverbs 27:9)
 A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages
against all wise judgment (Proverbs 18:1)

4) Stay Calm and be Patient

Many friendships are lost because of angry words spoken in haste and
later regretted. When you "blow your top" with a friend, you risk
blowing” the bond of friendship. You may still be cordial with each

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