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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander 4 רדנלדירפ םייח ברה # 2808
A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
Chapter 3 - Lesson 3 ג רמאמ - י ֶֶי ֶל ְֶ ר ִר ִׁ
certainly find the appropriate means for expressing his appreciation ר ֵׁ ַתּ ְס ֶה ְל אלֹ ְו ,םי ֶתּא ְנּ ַה םיֶיוּטּ ֶבּ ַה ת ִא אֹצ ְמ ֶל ךְי ֶר ָצּ ִֶ יא ַדּ ַו
and not be content with himself by mumbling his thanks out of
routine habit. .םיֶיּ ֶת ָר ְג ֶֶ ה ָדּתּ י ֵלוּמ ְל ֶמ ְבּ
.ג רמאמ
Chapter 3 - Lesson 3
ן ֵה ת ִי ַבּ ַה ת ַג ָה ְנ ַה ְל ךְי ִר ָצּ ֶשׁ תוֹל ֲע ַמּ ַה ן ָתוֹא
The character traits vital to a marriage relationship
are the very same character traits that are the 'ה ת ַדוֹב ֲע ַל תוֹיּ ִדוֹס ְי ַה תוֹל ֲע ַמּ ַה
foundation of service to Hashem.
ת ַנ ְשׁ ִמ ְבּ ל"ַז ֲח ַבוּ ,רוּע ִשׁ ןי ֵא ְל לוֹד ָגּ אוּה ה ָבוֹטּ ַה ת ַר ָכּ ַה ן ַי ְנ ִע ְו"
“This topic of gratitude is so very great as to be limitless. Chazal 15
in the Mishnah of Rebbe Eliezer say that “anyone who denies ,וֹר ֵב ֲח ל ֶשׁ וֹת ָבוֹט ְבּ ר ֵפוֹכּ ַה ל ָכּ ֶשׁ :וּר ְמ ָא 'ז ק ֶר ֶפּ 12רֶז ֶעי ִל ֱא י ִבּ ַר
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the goodness done to him by a friend in the end will deny the ."הֶז ָבּ דֹא ְמ וּרי ִמ ְח ֶה ֶשׁ ם ָשׁ ן ֵיּ ַע ְו .וֹנוֹק ל ֶשׁ וֹת ָבוֹט ְבּ ר ֵפוֹכּ ףוֹסּ ַב ְל
goodness done to him by his Creator. Please study carefully that
reference where Chazal were extremely strict in this regard.” ת ַרי ֶפ ְכּ י ֵדְי ל ַע וּי ָה ל ֵא ָרֹ ְשֶי ם ַע י ֵא ְט ִח בֹר ֶ ִרֹשּׁ ִֶ ר ָאֹב ְמ ם ֶָ
Chazal explain in that reference that the root cause of a majority פֵיּ ַע ,ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ת ַדּב ֲע ַל דּסְי ַה אוּה ה ָבּט ת ַר ָכּ ַה ִֶ ְו ,ה ָבּט
of the sins of the Jewish people is ingratitude, and that gratitude is
the basis of service to Hashem Yitbarach; please see that reference. .ם ֶָ
The same good character traits that a man must develop in the ֶי ֶא פי ֵבּ ִֶ ס ַחַי ְבּ ּמ ְצ ַע ְל ל ֵגּ ַס ְל ךְי ֶר ָצ ם ָד ָא ִֶ תּבּטּ ַה תוֹדִּמַּה
relationship between himself and his wife are the very same
character traits that he needs in his relationship with his Creator. ּני ֵבּ ִֶ ה ָדּב ֲע ָבּ פ ִה ָל רוּר ָז אוּה ִֶ תּדּ ֶמּ ַה פ ָתּא פ ֵה פ ֵה ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ְל
As much as we make an effort not to take for granted the favors we תּבּטּ ַה ת ִא ל ֵבּ ַר ְל אלֹ םי ֶל ְדּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶמ וּנ ָא ִֶ ל ָכ ְכּ .ּנּר פי ֵב ְל
receive from our wives as though they were routine and nothing
special, so too our eyes should be open to see all of the daily good ם ַגּ ח ַר ְפ ֶנ ךְ ָכּ ,וי ָל ֵא ֵמ פ ָבוּמּ ַה ר ָב ָד ְכּ תוּיּ ֶת ָר ְג ֶֶ ְבּ וּני ֵתֶּ ְנּ ֶמ
that we receive from Hashem Yitbarach, big and small day after ,תּנּ ַט ְקּ ַה ְו תּלּד ְגּ ַה תּיּ ֶמּי םּיּ ַה תּבּטּ ַה ל ָכּ תּא ְר ֶל וּני ֵני ֵע
day. That being so we receive a new dimension of insight into all
of the investment of effort and energy to acquire and perfect good ד ַמ ֵמ םי ֶל ְבּ ַר ְמ וּנ ָא ,פ ֵכּ ם ֶא .ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ת ֵא ֵמ םי ֶל ְבּ ַר ְמ וּנ ָא ִֶ
15. This is not the sefer Pirkei D’Rebbe Eliezer, rather it is a different ר ִז ִעי ֶל ֱא י ֶבּ ַר ת ֵא ֵמ ר ֵח ַא רוּבּ ֶח א ָלּ ִא ,ר ִז ִעי ֶל ֱא י ֶבּ ַר ְדּ י ֵר ְר ֶׁ ר ִפ ֵס ה ִז פי ֵא .15
sefer written by Rebbe Eliezer HaGadol. .לּד ָגּ ַה
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