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A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
Chapter 5 - Lesson 2 ב רמאמ - י ֶֶי ֶמ ֲח ר ִר ִׁ
Chapter 5 - Lesson 2 .ב רמאמ

Management of the household budget. םי ִפ ָס ְכּ ַה לוּה ִנ

It is not possible to give hard and fast rules regarding the money
management of the household’s needs. The responsibility of .תּר ְמ ְס ַמ ְבּ ַעֹבּ ְר ֶל ר ֶָ ְפ ִא י ֶא םי ֶפ ָס ְכּ ַה לוּה ֶנ פ ִפֹא תֶא
financially supporting the family rests on the husband. A wife can ת ִפ ִתּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶמ ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה .ל ַע ַבּ ַה ל ַע ת ִל ִטּ ֻמ תֶי ַבּ ַה ת ַס ָנ ְר ַפ ְל תוּי ָר ֲח ַא ָה
participate in the support of the household in proportion to her
ability. However there can be situations when the household is ב ָצּ ַמ ֵֶי ל ָב ֲא .תֶי ַבּ ַה ת ַל ָכּ ְל ַכ ְל םֹר ְת ֶל ְו רֹז ֲע ַל הּ ָתּ ְל ָכְי י ֶפ ְכּ
low on funds, for example, the working wife’s salary is delayed, or ,אּב ָל ת ִר ִח ַא ְמ ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ת ִרֹכּ ְשׂ ַמּ ִֶ פּג ְכּ ,תֶי ַבּ ַה ת ַׁ ֻר ְבּ ר ֵס ָח ִֶ
the husband’s Kollel stipend is late and unpaid for several months,
or there are sudden unexpected unique expenses and a loan has to תּא ָצּה ֵֶי ּא ,םי ֶֶ ָד ֳח ר ַׁ ְס ֶמ ב ֵכּ ַע ְת ֶה ל ֵלּכּ ַה ֵמ ף ִס ִכּ ַה ּא
be arranged to carry them over their financial difficulty. It is to be ל ַע ר ֵשּׁ ַג ְל י ֵד ְכּ ה ָא ָו ְל ַה ְל גֹא ְד ֶל ךְי ֶר ָצ ְו ,תּיוּפ ְצ י ֶתּ ְל ֶבּ תּד ָחֻי ְמ
clearly understood that obtaining a loan is strictly the responsibility
of the husband. The husband is responsible to make sure that his די ֶר ְפ ַתּ אוּה ה ָא ָו ְל ַה ַה ת ַג ָשּׂ ַה ִֶ פ ָבוּמ .תי ֶׁ ְס ַכּ ַה ה ָרוּצ ְמּ ַה י ֵנ ְׁ
wife will always have enough money ready on hand to pay for all תּא ְצּה ְל בי ֶצ ְר ַתּ ַה הִי ְהֶי ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָלּ ִֶ גֹא ְד ֶל בָיּ ַח ל ַע ַבּ ַה .ל ַע ַבּ ַה
of the household’s routine expenses.
.די ֶמ ָתּ פ ָכוּמ תֶי ַבּ ַה
It is inappropriate that for each household expense the wife should
be dependent on the willingness of her husband, meaning, that she ,הּ ָל ְע ַב ְבּ הָיוּל ְתּ א ֵה ְתּ ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ה ָא ָצּה ל ָכ ְבּ ִֶ אוּה יוּא ָר ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ
should have to go to him and ask him for that money - even if he
always gives her the money she asks for - since that is degrading. הּ ָל פ ֵתֶּי די ֶמ ָתּ ם ֶא ם ַגּ( ף ִס ִכּ וּנּ ִמּ ֶמ ֶ ֵקּ ַב ְל ה ָכי ֶר ְצ א ֵה ְתּ ִֶ וּנְי ַה ְדּ
Instead, the husband should always be concerned and make sure הִי ְהֶי די ֶמ ָתּ ִֶ ל ַע ַבּ ַה ג ַא ְדֶי א ָלּ ִא .לי ֶׁ ְֶ ַמ ה ִז י ֶכּ ,)הּ ֶָ ָקּ ֻב ְמ ת ִא
that his wife will always have enough money to pay for all of the
household’s recurring expenses, and that common sense dictates תּלּד ְגּ תּא ָצּה ,פ ָבוּמּ ַכּ .תּפ ְטּשּׁ ַה תּא ָצּה ַל הּ ָכּ ְר ָצ י ֵד ְכּ הּ ָל
they should consult with each other when the expense is significant. י ֵכ ְר ָצ תוּצי ֶח ְנ ֶבּ רי ֶכּ ַה ְל ךְי ֶר ָצ ל ַע ַבּ ַה .תי ֶד ָד ֲה תוּצ ֲעַי ְת ֶה ְבּ וּשׂ ָעֵי
The husband must recognize the importance of the needs of his
wife. On occasion she has a desire to buy an item to enhance the ּא תֶי ַבּ ַה טוּשּׁ ֶר ְל ץ ִפ ֵח תּנ ְר ֶל פּצ ָר הּ ָל ֵֶי םי ֶמ ָע ְפ ֶל .ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה
appearance of their home, or a personal expense, and the husband ל ָב ֲא .פ ָכּ ְר ָצ ְו פ ָתוּפי ֶח ְדּ ת ִא פי ֶב ֵמ ל ַע ַבּ ַה פי ֵא ִֶ תי ֶֶי ֶא ה ָא ָצּה
cannot understand its importance or need. But because the item
is important to her he should agree to her request. To understand ךְָיּ ֶַ ה ִז פָי ְנ ֶע .הּ ָתּ ֶא םי ֶכּ ְסַי ,ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָל ה ָבוֶּ ֲח ּז ה ָא ָצּה ִֶ פ ָוי ֵכּ
this scenario a husband must understand the nature of his wife, as .ה ָב ָח ְר ַה ְבּ לי ֵע ְל ָהי ִל ָע וּנ ְר ַבּ ֶדּ ִֶ ,ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ל ִֶ הּ ָע ְב ֶט ת ַנ ָב ֲה ַל
we spoke about this at length earlier in this essay. In any event the
husband should not be petty or stingy when discussing the expenses ל ַע םי ֶנוּיּ ֶדּ ַבּ תוּנ ָצ ְמּ ַר ְו תוּיּ ֶנוּנ ְט ַר ה ִא ְרַי ל ַא ,םי ֶנ ָׁ ל ָכּ ל ַע
of the household’s needs. .תּא ָצּה ַה

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