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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander רדנלדירפ םייח ברה
A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק 1
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on, and if he does not fulfill these responsibilities he is slighting his this entire journey, in his letter of introduction to Rabbi Aharon
wife and damaging her. Therefore the main effort for establishing Feldman and to the Friedlander family, in his guidance giving us
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a family is in the perfection of interpersonal attitudes and character continuous direction at every step in this process, in shepherding us
traits. This is certainly not an easy task, as the Gaon Rabbi Yisrael around the hurdles that confronted us at various times during this
Salanter ZT”L said that it is easier to complete the learning of the period and for adding his own words of advice to Chatanim that
entire Shas than to change one personality trait. appear at the end of this sefer in quoting Rav Shach.

However, the Torah and our Rabbis Z”L help us change and refine The technical team that produced this sefer is phenomenal. My
our character when we embark on building a family. The Torah sincerest appreciation goes to Mr. Efrayim Babbi in Bnei Brak for
gives us the mitzvah (Devarim 24:5) “and you shall make happy his graphical layout and for the physical printing and production
the woman you took as your wife.” And when there is a mitzvah – of the sefer in Holon. Mrs. Esther Ludmir in Jerusalem typed and
there is also help from Shamayim to implement the fulfillment of the vowelized the entire Hebrew text as there was no existing electronic
mitzvah - that we should be able to mature and emerge out of a self- file of the Kuntres. Ms. Reena Abady’s pleasing creativity and
centered mindset and devote our attention to a wife and make her design expertise went into the creation of the cover artwork. Mr.
happy. The entire reason for the mitzvah of Seven Days of Wedding David Benoliel has been a consistent resource laying the basic
Celebration during which time the husband is not permitted to do graphic foundation for the cover artwork. Mr. Liad Maccabi’s
any work is for him not to lose his focus and thought on pleasing his web design allows the sefer to be read anywhere in the world. My
wife and making her happy. special thanks go to the principals of E.S. Originals and to Mr.
Meyer Elnadav and Mr. Sol Roxas in the IT department for their PC
Through the mitzvah of making the groom and bride happy –
meaning, the mitzvah of Seven Days of Wedding Celebration - the support in the manuscript’s preparation and communication.
entire community helps the new couple to endow their relationship Lastly, I am in awe of my dear wife and family for once again
with an atmosphere of happiness, and in this atmosphere of happiness giving me precious time and their understanding and patience to
good and pleasant personality traits will be able to develop in the focus on this work. May the One who is All good bless them all
couple’s relationship because happiness opens up one’s heart. We and all their families with His good and His Beracha for good at all
elevate the Chatan – who is comparable to a king, particularly in times, Amen.
his responsibility to his new wife – and we praise him in order to Our Tefilah is that this sefer should accomplish all of the good goals
emphasize the good qualities that reside latent within him which he that were intended for it in cultivating Shalom Bayit throughout
is capable of developing and needs to develop. The sins of a groom Klal Yisrael, both in this English edition and in its companion
and bride are all forgiven in order for them to open a new page in Spanish edition.
their lives and change for the good.
Yedidya Levy
During those days of Simcha the groom and bride each wants to Elul 5778
make their spouse happy and give each other a sense of pleasure. Congregation Mazal Elul
In this sense our teacher and rabbi, the Tzadik Gaon Rabbi Eliyahu
Dessler ZT”L would tell the couple during this period of the Seven
Days of Wedding Celebration (referencing his sefer Michtav
M’Eliyahu, volume 1, page 39) “My dear precious ones, be very 7. Rosh Yeshivat Ner Yisrael, Baltimore, MD

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