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If you want quality attention from someone, you will be more likely to receive it if you give
quality attention, unprompted first.

If you want someone to be interested in you, express sincere interest in who they are and what
they do, what pleases them, what irritates the life out of them. In showing your interest in
someone, they will feel compelled to reciprocate.

If you want to share happiness with someone, discover what it is that makes them happy and
deliver it. Bring happiness into someone’s life and invariably, they will want to see you equally as
happy.

If you want the respect of someone, show them sincere respect for an area you really do
respect about them. Be specific, don’t generalise. Mean what you say or don’t say it at all. If
you just say “I really respect you”, They might think “What for?” and even ask you, so you must
have a genuine reason for respecting the, and give it in detail.

If you want to impress someone, find something about them that genuinely impresses you and
tell them. Again, you must sincerely mean it. If you do not and they spot your insincerity, it will
create distrust.

If you want someone to believe in you, let them know you sincerely believe in them or have
confidence in them. You get what you give. What you send out, you get back.

Everything you do toward another person has a rebound effect toward you. If you convey,
insincerely, that you love someone, in some way, that insincerity will rebound back to you.
However, every kind word, sincerely meant that raises the self esteem of someone will in turn,
raise your own self esteem.

Regardless of how successful or happy a person may become, they will always need a degree
of uplifting support for their self image. We all need to feel valuable and valued.

There are some people in my life, who make me like the way I feel about myself when I am with
them. I can’t help but like those people because I feel more positively about myself when I am
with them.

The happiest and most successful people are those who make other people feel good about
themselves. When we go through life helping others to genuinely feel good about themselves,
we attract opportunities and people in ways we could not previously imagine.

If you want to improve the quality of your human relationships, practice giving more of what you
want to receive. .

Creating a healthy personality

The fulfilment and enjoyment you will get out of your human relationships is directly affected by
the healthy personality you create for yourself. If you have the necessary elements of a healthy
personality, people will be drawn to those elements and will want to be in your company.

Conversely, if you possess few or none of the characteristics of a healthy personality people will
be less likely to feel the desire to want to be around you.

Some of the essentials of a healthy personality are :