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This, Fisher says, may be what's responsible for the long-term, persistent feeling of attachment
between people in a committed relationship. "The feeling of attachment is really very different
from the feeling of romantic love," she says. "Romantic love is giddiness, elation, euphoria,
energy.

When you're feeling a deep sense of attachment, you're calmer and more contented."

It's still uncertain why people transition from the first phase of love to the second phase of
attachment, but Fisher hypothesizes that they're driven by separate evolutionary mechanisms.
The initial flood of obsessive love evolved, she thinks, in order to get you to focus on a single
person in order to reproduce. The second phase of attachment, by contrast, evolved to link you
to another person for an extended period of time, in order to raise a child.

We Express Love Through the Power of Attraction

Within the brain, every mental activity consists of neutrons (electrically neutral subatomic
particles) firing in a certain sequence. An "Attractor" is an association of links that can
overwhelm weaker ones. The limbic brain (i.e. the emotional brain) contains its emotional
attractors, encoded early in life. If the early experience of a limbic network reflects healthy
emotional experience, its attractors will serve as reliable guides to the world of workable
relationships. (Explaining the subconscious search for a mate with qualities we admired in our
parents).

In human beings, an attractor's influence is not confined to its mind of origin. The limbic brain
sends energy of emotion, in this case love, outward. Limbic resonance joins human minds
together in a continuous exchange of energy signals and, like a network of computers, every
brain is part of the network that shares information.