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We end up feeling badly about ourselves, unable to stand up
for ourselves effectively and to negotiate healthy compromises
and solutions that enable the core development of trust and
the kind of underlying feelings of safety and security that
stem from a solid sense of healthy inner entitlement.

Another useful aspect of anger to bring into our awareness
is that it is almost always caused or generated by another
underlying emotion.

If I were to put of all our emotions in a bottle, anger would be
at the top. We only have to look at young children to see this
in action. They have yet to learn the social niceties of
emotionally acceptable behavior and so, as a consequence
their different emotional states are readily available to
witness.

If a child is embarrassed - they get angry. If a child is fearful
they may lash out - they get angry. If their feelings are hurt by
another child - they get angry. If they fall over in the
playground, they will get mad at the tarmac for hurting them -
they get angry!

Anger is almost always a response to another emotion and in
learning to use our anger effectively it pays us to understand
this.

In my experience, people who are easily in touch with their
anger, perhaps sitting towards the more uncontained end of
the spectrum, will often need help to learn to look below the
surface to discover what lies beneath.

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