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Sue and I are sufficiently different, and this sometimes allows for constructive
tension between us, so we take nothing for granted. She is not comfortable,
however, with stressful or inharmonious interactions. When we have our
differences, she defends her mother and father and the Bible, which states, “In your

anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (Ephesians
4:26) (NIV)

I have said many times that Sue inherited the Chinese culture traits while living in
Hong Kong where our Chinese maid called us Missy and Master instead of Sue
and Gary. To me, my gal Sue is both “sweet and sour.” If you ask her to express
her impressions or opinions on a subject, she will do so. She will defend her
position, and you had better be ready to do likewise. She likes healthy discussions.

She may even take the opposite viewpoint just to promote discussion. The topic
can be anything. She does not like to have her decisions challenged and is
impatient with people who criticize her, but she is understanding of other people’s
views and can empathize with them. The largest modification in her life has been
in changing from a black and white world on issues and events to a more middle of
the road understanding of circumstances and situations.

Two strong people will have differences; we certainly have and still do on some
issues. From time to time, we dislike some of the things each of us does, but our
love is strong; it is unconditional. During our marriage, we have sought direction
from church counselors and professionals because we are committed to each other
and to our marriage. We had two initial understandings at the beginning of our
marriage: The first one to ask for a divorce got the kids, and I would make all big

decisions, but there have not been any. [Chuckle, chuckle!] If you believe this,
please reread this autobiography.

We have never become bored with each other and never will, and we spend our
time attempting to please the other. My primary goal in life has been to assume full
responsibility for Sue and her happiness. She has accepted me for what I am and

for what I am not. I am a better man when I am with her. I told Sue early in our
dating that she was the one for me. I fell in love with her when I saw her heart
through her eyes. My life would be empty without her, and she makes me feel
special. I thank her for all she has done for me. She believes that we are truly
meant for each other; therefore, I am the center of her daily thought processes.

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