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have asked him if we could go on a picnic, take a weekend
together away, shut the TV off for just an hour and talk with
each other, take a walk together, and on and on. I have felt
neglected and unloved because seldom did he ever
respond to my request. He gave me nice gifts for my
birthday and special occasions and wondered why I was
not excited about them.
“During your seminar,” she continued, “the lights came
on for both of us. During the break, my husband apologized
for being so dense through the years and so resistant to my
requests. He has promised me that things will be different
in the future, and I believe they will.”

Another way to discover your primary love language is to
examine what you do or say to express love to your spouse.
Chances are what you are doing for her is what you wish
she would do for you. If you are constantly doing “Acts of
Service” for your spouse, perhaps (although not always)
that is your love language. If “Words of Affirmation” speak
love to you, chances are you will use them in speaking love
to your spouse. Thus, you may discover your own language
by asking, “How do I consciously express my love to my
spouse?”
But remember, that approach is only a possible clue to
your love language; it is not an absolute indicator. For
example, the husband who learned from his father to