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Of course, they were not her ‘type’ for several reasons. Some were not

from her state of origin. Others were not sensitive or handsome enough.

But there was one particular guy that she said seemed the right man for

marriage. He had all the qualities except one – the guy lacked ‘drive’.

She wanted a guy that had drive.

Now, that was interesting because, as we reflected on the guys ‘lack of

drive’, we couldn’t help wondering that this guy was a medical doctor and

was aspiring to travel abroad to make some money. I wondered out loud

how possible it was for someone to accomplish what the guy had if he

lacked drive!

And as we explored the guys so called ‘lack of drive’, we discovered that

this was actually the one quality that she wanted the most in a man!

After all, wasn’t she also looking for a man that would allow her to be

herself and continue to participate in her ministry? In other words, a man

that wouldn’t mind her pursuing her own dreams – a quality she

inaccurately described as lack of drive?

At the end of the day, all of us, and particularly the lady in question,

realized that this guy was exactly what she was looking for!

She couldn’t recognize the fact because of her misunderstanding of the

concept of ‘drive’.

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