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6. To attract the right man for

marriage, you must avoid

unrealistic, and perfect

expectations.

Most ladies are unable to attract the right man for marriage because their

expectations are unrealistic and idealistic.

This is often as a result of a lack of understanding of what exactly it is that

you want.

The lady in our discussion above actually had this problem too. When she

brought up the subject of drive – which by the way, as we found out,

meant someone with a vision and passion to accomplish that vision – we

pointed out to her that any man that possessed that quality she called

‘drive’ would not allow her to be herself and remain in her ministry!

In fact, it was that very quality she desired in the right man for marriage

that this guy had – and she called it ‘lack of drive’!

In essence, her problem was that she wanted someone that was not in

existence – a man who had drive (who was passionately committed to his

vision), but who lacked ‘drive’ (who would accommodate non-

commitment to that vision from his wife)!

Of course, she eventually realized that the guy actually had drive, or else

he would not have gone through the rigors of medical school and was

planning to expand his economic prospects by moving out of the country.

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