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couples begin to recognize the feeling of freedom inherent in choosing to be
together rather than needing to be together. This slight shift in the flavor of
the relationship allows people the space to begin really loving one another.

An image I’ve had on several occasions when working with couples
who were feeling very “needy” is of two cats I loved very much. When my
cats Sophie and Jessie were kittens they used to play actively on the floor.
Sophie and Jessie looked to me as if they were wrestling. They would place
their forepaws on each other’s necks as they rolled over and over. In a way

it appeared like they were hugging one another, all the while licking and
chewing on each other’s face. They looked really happy. What I noticed
also, however, is that while they were “making nice” and playing with the
upper parts of their bodies they were, with their back paws, clawing the