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Dive into your memories and your pain when you feel the need. Accept
unexpected waves of sadness and anger and work with them, not against
them. Breathe. Reflect on the gifts you received from having spent time

with your lost loved one. Decide to cherish the gifts, to use them, and to
embellish them. Forgive your loved one for dying. This, too, takes time.
Intend to forgive if you can’t yet forgive. Find the desire to let go of your
loved one. Let go of him or her. Keep the good memories and wisdom you
gained from your loved one’s life and death.

Sexual Feeling

Just as your gremlin may convince you or scare you into suppressing
your anger, joy, and sadness, he may also put a lid on your sexual feelings.
Notice what you tend to do when you feel amorous and/or sexually aroused.
Sure, it depends on the circumstances, but has your gremlin convinced you
to respond to sexual feelings out of habit?

I’ve met men whose gremlins had them convinced that ejaculation was

a necessary response to feeling turned on. And I have met men and women
whose gremlins had convinced them that sexual feeling was unwholesome.
Remember Katherine and her gremlin, the Reverend Al Drydup? The
Reverend had confused and thwarted Katherine with these two messages:
“Sex is nasty and sinful” and “You should save it for the one you love.”
Confusing, huh? Gremlins are treacherous, tricky, and determined.

Notice your habitual responses to sexual feeling. Do your habits vary
from circumstance to circumstance? What does feeling sexually attracted to

someone feel like to you? Do you feel weak, strong, wet, warm, angry,
anxious, electrified, loving? What happens to your voice? Your level of