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That is why it is so important that you choose to take responsibility for bringing your

shadow into the light through paying attention to what triggers anger in you. Then,

you will need to choose to actually listen to the messages that the anger is telling you.

Anger is not a bad thing; anger is there to tell you a message.

The message of anger is a message of self-awareness. It is a message to tell you “hey

here is a signpost for you to consider with regard to your own behaviour in your own

life”. Further it is a telling trigger inviting you to reflect on the way that you choose to

deal with other people and what you may be advertising to the world about yourself

without even knowing it.

So, before you decide to get angry at someone else next time someone does

something that pisses you off and triggers anger in you, I'm going to invite you to

instead look within yourself when that happens and ask yourself this question:

What is my anger telling me about the things that I do that I'm in denial about?

What is it that this situation is pointing to in my life that has to do with my personality

and the way that I behave with other people that is making me so irritated right now?

The first hurdle of this shadow work is to identify the personality traits that make up

your shadow personality. The next step is to then acknowledge and accept those

things that you do not like about yourself and recognise that you display those

personality traits to the world at large whether you're aware of it or not.

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