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The truth is that if someone else does something that is different to how you would

do something most of the time you just wouldn't really care how they chose to do

things. The people that do things that piss you off are people who are doing things

that represent a part of your own personality that you have rejected within yourself.

You get angry at others that do things because you cannot love or accept those

attributes about yourself.

The reality though is that you do those things as well.

The next time someone pisses you off, take it as an opportunity to step back and ask

yourself what is it that's happening right now. What is it about this person or what is

it that they are doing or saying that is really pissing me off? Why does it piss me off?

A good example for me would be say if someone asks really dumb or trivial questions

of you when you're trying to get something done. I might feel embarrassed or I might

cringe at how left a field or unconventional that person's behaviour is or the questions

that they're asking. The truth is that the reason why it annoys me so much is because

I sometimes ask dumb questions and I do really cringe worthy things but I don't like

that about myself. So then if I see someone else doing something embarrassing or

stupid then I get annoyed at them because I'm trying to disassociate myself with the

parts of myself that I don't like.

You see the problem with shadow is that it's the things that you don't like, the things

that piss you off or irritate you or annoy you in other people are things that you do

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