Page 105 - Failure to Triumph - Journey of A Student

You must remember that you, and only you, are responsible for your
happiness. As J. K Rowling has said, “We do not need magic to

transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside
ourselves already.” At various stages of your life your relatives,
siblings, and even your parents will say something, which will make
you realize that you are not in their priority list. On such instances it
is possible that you will feel helpless. So, what should you do in a
situation like that?

The first and foremost thing which you have to do in your life is to

become self-dependent. You will earn respect from others only when
you will be self-dependent. You have to make yourself efficient
enough to face all challenges, to solve your problems, and tackle
any adverse situation. But if you are not self-dependent then you will
have to depend on others and that would restrict your freedom and

render you voiceless.
You do not have to expect that everyone in your house will
understand your point, or would help you in realizing your dreams or
achieving your targets. Your freedom is in your hands. Ayn Rand
said, “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to

stop me.” If you get any kind of support or assistance from anyone
then it will surely help you, but you must also understand that you
will have to free yourself from the shackles of the society. Accept the
fact that- No matter whatever you do, you cannot bring about a
drastic positive change in the orthodox ideologies of a patriarchal
society. You be the change. The narrow thoughts in others’ mind is

not your problem; but if society’s mentality affects you in a negative
way, then stop caring about others and think about your own rights.
You must remember you are the one who will give birth to your
future.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can
decide not to be reduced by them.” – Maya Angelou
If you are self-dependent then nobody in your house, in the society

or in your husband's house will be able to suppress your voice or
identity as an individual. Many a time, I have seen that a husband