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“Tears, sorrow and disappointment are
bitter, but wisdom is the comforter in all

psychic suffering. Indeed, bitterness and
wisdom form a pair of alternatives: where

there is bitterness wisdom is lacking, and
where wisdom is there can be no bitterness.”
- Carl Jung, Mysterium Coniunctionis,

paragraph 330

When there is no longer a state of
oneness or symbiosis, we find out we
are indeed separate human beings and

that blissful state of unity is gone. But
if we value friendship, then we will not

be so disappointed. We don’t expect our
friends to be exactly like us, then why
do we expect that from our partners?

They’re not going to be exactly like us.
And yes, the feeling of “being in-love“

will go away. But the love that replaces
that unconscious unity is much more
soul satisfying because it’s based on

who each person actually is as a unique
human being. There is much more

tolerance and acceptance for someone
we truly love as opposed to a person we
are “madly in-love” with.

Wholeness, which is what we are all

striving for is an intra-psychic process,
so we need each other to see the
mirror of our hidden selves (shadow,

anima, animus). If we are willing to
see the characteristics within us that

our partners represented, we may find
out the relationship we are in now or
those that didn’t work were indeed

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