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people and she carries a NOW we are faced they were Prince Charming
projection of his Anima for with the task of or Sleeping Beauty. This
him. other kind of love is only
establishing a real romantic images and ideals

We like “the you” that was relationship with we all have. These will

projected at the beginning of the REALITY of ultimately disappoint us
the fascination. Not this you who they are not because no one out there is
that you are now displaying. perfect, and neither are we.

So now, through using anger, who we thought
control, sexual withdrawal, they were. Another thing that often

and a variety of other manipulations, happens is that both people have a non-
we try to force the other person to live verbal agreement to keep their fantasy
out our imaginary and projected image alive by not telling the other what they

of who we thought they were. And they are really thinking or feeling. They tell
can’t live up to that kind of expectation their friends and families but never each

and be true to themselves. NOW we are other. They say, “Oh, no I could never
faced with the task of establishing a real tell him that. He would get angry with
relationship with the REALITY of who me.” In order to keep the peace, they

they are not who we thought they were. keep their truths hidden from each other.
This way they can hold on to the illusion

We really don’t know anyone until we that they are relating to each other,
marry them. When we’re together day which is far from the truth. Jung calls
in and day out, we will see them in a this deception (a key Piscean word) an

lot of different situations, and they will unconscious relationship.
also see us. Now we are having a real

relationship and as the projections fall In his book, The Eden Project, In Search of
off, we will find they are sometimes the Magical Other, James Hollis explains,
the ideal we pictured them to be and “In the beginning we may have loved

sometimes they, too, will annoy the hell their otherness, but now it starts to drive
out of us. They will no longer provide the us up a wall. They must have changed!

constant magic for us that we thought we We tell ourselves.” It’s interesting to hear
would have when we married them. They ourselves or others say, “You are NOT
become real in our eyes. Conversely, if who I thought you were.” Well, of course

we never have a relationship with them, they are not. Here’s a startling insight. We
then we can go our whole lives thinking didn’t really know them.

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