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“Probably best to call it The Expectations Conundrum – the challenges of expectations.”

He said pointing at what he had drawn. “The continuum of expectations in a personal

relationship is quite diverse. In most relationships, the expectations start as ‘Wish’, the dotted

vertical line with the arrow. Relationship can go in any direction from there! Either slide down

or get stronger.”

“Unmanaged, ‘Wish’ can become ‘Demand’ that is one-sided, rigid, inflexible, and difficult

to meet. Invariably, it will slowly drift towards ‘Apathy’, where partners take each other for

granted because they lose enthusiasm and are neither concerned nor care. It can slide further

to the worst stage, ‘Burden’ where expectations become responsibility, and the relationship

becomes a deadweight, steadily moving towards the break-point.” He paused.

“Every ‘Wish’ is the face of some invisible and unmet ‘Need’. If the partners can maturely

identify and understand that need, they can significantly enhance the chances of meeting it

and strengthen the relationship.”