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understood what we expected from you. It proved to be quite helpful as our behavior and

actions were then guided by it.”

“I am glad you found it useful. The most common reason for breach of trust is unknown

or guessed expectations. What we presume is acceptable, surprises the other person as our

actions or words do not meet their expectations. Unfortunately, most often the expectations

are neither defined nor aligned, resulting in perceived breach of trust! And as trust is the

foundation, it affects the relationship. Trust, in early stages of a relationship, is so fragile that

even perceived breach can break it.”

“Trust, they say takes long time to build, seconds to break and forever to repair.”

“Ron this is a very important subject. I am wondering how can we manage trust and

expectations in a relationship?

“It is an excellent but extraordinarily complex question Dan. The answer too is quite

difficult. Because a cookie cutter approach is not possible.” He paused for a few moments.

For the first time Dan had a feeling that Ron was grappling for words.

After a while Ron spoke, “I have never thought about this before Dan. As you have again

brought me in unchartered territory, you will have to bear with me; we will jointly try to find

the answer.” He was silent again, deep in thought.

“Relationship is all about trust and expectations. It is impractical to define a common set

of expectations or principles for all relationships as diversity of the individuals makes every

relationship distinct and unique.” He paused again; eyes focused on the ceiling.