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practice. He explained how things have dramatically changed at work since then. He looked

Betsy directly in eyes and added with a sly smile, “and at home.”

Betsy responded with an even bigger smile. “Dan this is so beautiful and romantic. But I

feel devastated that you had to endure so much pressure and anguish at work and I could not

share it; I should have tried to find out. You poor darling!” and she hugged him. “Thanks for

getting us back.” She whispered.

“It is not just me Bet. You played an equally important role. We could never be here without

your positive and disproportionate response. Without your enthusiastic reciprocity, I would

have gone back into my shell after few tries. Your response encouraged and inspired me.”

“I don’t know how many times I thought of taking the initiative myself, but I was so afraid

that you may not respond Dan. Not sure whether the fear of rejection was too strong or was

it my ego that prevented me to take the lead. But I was clear that I would grab it with both

hands if you ever initiated. Every time we were nearby or talked, I hoped and waited!”

“I was in the same boat Bet. My ego and loss-of-face fear were not allowing me to initiate.

Although I too had created numerous mental scenarios of how I will respond if ever you

reached out. I too hoped and waited every day!”

“Then in the very first session with Ron I learnt the value of valuing people. I also realized

that I value you and our relationship far more than my ego.”

“I had no idea how you will respond, but that became irrelevant. I was prepared for the

worst – I would have been distraught if you had responded negatively, but I would feel satisfied