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• The couples should discuss the problem themselves before seeking any advice

from outside. There should be dialogue, soul searching, and reconciliation. At

this time no family member or any closest sibling should be involved, because

in most cases the closest family member may increase the problem. It is a

matter of reconciliation, forgiving and forgetting what happened for a good

marriage to work. AbuHurayrah narrated: The prophet (PBUH) said: Anyone

who incites a woman against her husband or a slave against his master is not

one of us 2.

• If the first point does not work, the husband and wife should choose and bring

arbitrators to bring reconciliation. Two arbitrators/impartial personalities, one

from the family of the wife and the other from wife’s family. The appointed

arbitrators should make sure they bring peace and harmony between the two

couples as observed and stressed in the Holy Qur’an.

Allah (SAW) says,

“If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and the wife), appoint (two)

arbitrators, one from his family and the other from hers; if they both wish for

peace, Allah (SAW) will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah (SAW) is All

Knower, Well acquainted with all things" (Q 2:226)

• In case a solution is not achieved by the mediation of the two arbitrators, then

the wife should consult a Qadi appointed by the government to end the

marriage life through the Qadi Court. Through Qadi Court the wife will be

given a notification to take to her husband. The notification in most cases will

inform the husband to report to the Qadi Court for marriage discussion in a

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