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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

EXERCISE 3: BECOMING AWARE OF HOW YOU RATE YOURSELF AND
OTHERS.

A . List some of the words that you tend to use when you are putting others
down:

B . List some of the words that you tend to use when you put yourself down:

R

EXPANDING ON THE OF L-E-A-R-N

R = Responsibility for your feelings belongs to you!

“You made me mad” is an everyday expression. How mistaken! REI holds
that, to a large extent, people mace themselves mad, sad, scared, miserable,
happy, and excited. People do this by the way they think about their

experiences. Responsibility for your feelings belongs to you.

So “knock off’ blaming other people or the past for your emotional upset. As
that great American philosopher, Pogo, said, ‘We have met the enemy and
he is us!” Accept responsibility for your feelings and get on with making
them better. Refuse to accept responsibility and suffer, suffer, suffer!

There is nothing bad or wrong with being “emotional” and experiencing a
variety of feelings. ALIVE CODE helps people to take responsibility for their

feelings and learn when they are self- defeating, to change them.

When unfortunate events occur, negative feelings like sadness or
disappointment are usually appropriate because they help you to cope with
these events and motivate you to try to change them. ALIVE CODE will help
you learn to experience more appropriate feelings, and ultimately more
happiness.

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