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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

These statements re ect the ALIVE CODE philosophy:

I am not my behavior, but I am responsible for my behavior.
I am not my feelings, but I experience my feelings.
I am not my thoughts, but I think them.
My feelings, thoughts, and behaviors may change over time, but I
will still be me.
If my performance, in terms of thoughts, |behaviors and feelings, is
bad, it does not follow that I am bad.
If my performance is good, it does not follow that I am good.
I am an ongoing person—a process who does good and bad
things.
Because I am not my ‘feelings, thoughts, and behaviors I can
admit that some of my behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are “bad”,
because they are disadvantageous. I am not bad for having or
doing them. Yet, I will pro t from changing them. So I’d better
correct them to enjoy myself, not to prove myself.
I do not have to condemn or put myself down. I can admit that I
am responsible and feel regretful without blaming myself and

feeling guilty about speci c things that I have said, done, or
thought. I may feel guilty about some of my acts, but about
myself; I never have to feel guilty because I always have a choice
about condemning or rating myself.

These are some of the main rational-emotive philosophies that are covered
in this workbook. ALIVE CODE philosophies and values such as realism,
scienti c thinking, and acceptance of uncertainty — are brie y mentioned
here but are taught in more detail in other ALIVE CODE materials on listed in
the Smudge Pot Theory Book Shelf of suggested readings.

You will bene t if you change your disadvantageous thoughts, feelings, and
behaviors. Change not because you have to or should, but because you will
bene t from doing so. The wrong reason to change is to prove that you are

an okay, good, or acceptable person.

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