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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

Other people have experienced dif cult Activating Events like your own.
Still, your particular experience what you perceive at A and what you Believe
about this perception at B is unique to you.

In fact, each time Activating Events occur, you may have a somewhat
different Belief about them. Think carefully. When you experienced the
Activating Event or Adversity you wrote about earlier, what disturbing
meaning or philosophy did you create about it and about you?

Experiencing this undesirable Activating Event or Adversity means or
suggests to me that... (Example: What it is awful What I am worthless for not
handling it well.).

People often believe or suspect that when their Activating Experience (A) is
a failure or rejection it means (at B) that they are a failure or an inadequate
person. Many people identify their poor performance and then rate or down
themselves. It is as if their experience somehow proves that they are totally
“bad” or “inadequate,” which is not true!

By taking the time and effort to confront or face the meant (B) that you give

to your undesirable experience (A), you learn how you needlessly upset
yourself. Then you can give your experience a new meaning by changing
your thinking and thereby changing your disturbed emotions and
behaviors.

You will then feel appropriately sorry, disappointed, or frustrated, instead of
inappropriately and destructively panicked, depressed, and self-hating when
unfortunate Activating Events occur in your life.

Identify How Logical Beliefs Help You

Think about how your life would improve if you refused to upset yourself
overly when undesirable Activating Experiences happen. Imagine that you
work hard at using ALIVE CODE that when an unfortunate Activating
Experience occurs, like you mentioned above, you tell yourself only rational
or self-helping Beliefs about it.

What good results would you get?

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