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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

Remember how you described your undesirable Activating Event? Review
what you wrote about it.

Identify Your Illogical Beliefs

When you feel disturbed, what do you believe about the Activating Event
that makes you feel emotionally upset and makes you behave self
defeatingly?

I believe and tell myself (Example: I must always do well on interviews.).

You are in the process of learning how to help yourself by nding your
irrational Beliefs

(Illogical Beliefs about the Adversities (A’s) of your life and later by Disputing

them to achieve your goals.

As you practice, you will learn more about your feelings and behavior by
understanding the relationship between your self-talk, feelings, and actions.
Again, the main idea to learn is that your Beliefs (self-talk and basic
philosophy) in uence your feelings and to a large extent determine your
behavior.

Identify the Meaning You Give to Your Adversities

For now, focus on the meaning that your Activating Experience has for you.
Rational- emotive-therapy holds that when you feel disturbed you give a
special meaning to adversities that happen or that you think may happen to
you. You are a human being and have lots of things in common with other
people.

Understand that you are still a unique individual.

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